HAPPY TO BE SINGLE!
Today is her Birthday and I am posting this as a small gift to my sister. She is 21 and in her words she is single. Though I have my doubts about it, still I trust her when she says that she is single. So this post is about her experience of SINGLEDOM.
Just recently, we both were sitting and finishing our dinner and with mom not around we were talking very freely about various topics under the sky and one such topic was if she is single or not and if she is, why is she still single??? I felt like I committed a serious offence by asking her this question as she went ahead to lecture me for almost an hour about the same and in the end I told her a ‘Sorry’ and switched on the TV to maximum possible sound just to nullify the effect. Later on when I started thinking, all her talks made sense as she is of the age where such types of things do happen.
Times have changed. There was a time when Love Marriage was considered as rebellious, now is the time when Arranged Marriage is given the name of lack of opportunity. So in such cases, if a 21 year old girl is single, it is surely looked down upon. But when I had a chat with my sister, her thoughts and ideas shook me very well and I liked d feeling that yes a girl at 21 can be single.
Following are completely her thoughts on being single which she shared with me few days ago:
“To be honest, I have no idea why I am still single… I have asked my friends this question a zillion times… And these are some of the weird answers that I received… Once your braces are out you will find somebody… So, I patiently waited for that day to come… It has been almost a month now & hello, there is not even a single guy asking me out… My entire dream sequence of turning from old Jassi to a hot new Jassi has come shattering down…
Looking at my disappointment, my friends suggested maybe because people think that I already have a boyfriend and I should start wearing a t-shirt with this slogan “SINGLE & READY TO MINGLE”. Seriously my friends are sweethearts… It’s one thing to be supportive and it’s completely different thing to give me weird suggestions and try to make me feel better…
Then finally I asked my brother and his friends for their views but let me warn you beforehand their suggestions are as useless as my friends. According to him I intimidate guys and he has this vision (or maybe a dream sequence) of my future boyfriend/husband asking him to go to a bar, to booze around in his company to maintain his sanity. My brother does not understand that, “mujhe sirf uski maarne main mazaa aati hai.” why on earth will I want to kick my boyfriend’s ass. Another friend of his suggested that I am too honest and boys don’t like it when they are told the truth, this again is something I can’t relate to.
But you know what I think; I already know the answer to my question. I think it’s ME who doesn’t want to be in a relationship and that’s why I am warding these people away from my life. I have seen so many relationships around me going sour that it has made my kind of cynical about the whole issue and moreover I have always been self-assured to discuss any of my problems with anyone. Boys have this constant need to be a knight in shining armor for the damsel in distress, even if it means they are being liked for their money or are a rebound guy. They have no problems with that. So if a girl is all needy & bawling like a baby at the drop of a hat for even a mention of her ex has many takers. But what about those girls who don’t have such problem or don’t like to share it with the world or is able to take care of themselves, what happens to these girls? Do these girls really get guys who are interested in them or end up in the just ‘friends’ mode. Guys always crib about the dearth of self-confident, happy women. The question here is guys are you ready to have a girlfriend who considers you to be just a boyfriend and not a savior.
Anyway this post is about me and not the guys… Do I really want to be in a relationship????????
Naaaaa…… I cannot handle the whole drama and fill up my life with explanations and questions and a constant need to look good. I am happy to just be me and enjoy my life with my girlies. After all ‘It’s my life, my rules.’ And how can I forget, I am “HAPPY TO BE SINGLE!!!””
So, these were her views and I had to listen to it for almost an hour. I am much relieved man now and all my assumptions are for myself. Girls at 21 need not be committed or be hooked to some guy. Frankly, if you ask me, I’ll say that the legal marriage age should be increased to 23 for both the genders. Who in India is mature enough to get married at 23???
Similarly, people should start getting into relationships after they graduate from college. Yes, we have seen love stories where they are childhood and they get married and live happily ever after. Well life is not so simple. I feel the right age to fall in love should be after 23 or 24 and till that time, I echo my sister’s sentiments of ‘It’s my life, my rules’ and ‘HAPPY TO BE SINGLE!!!’